Before you message
Etiquette
None of this is complicated. It is simply the difference between a reply and silence.
- Lead with a sentence. Tell us something about you. An opening photo gets you nothing.
- Talk to both of us. We read everything together. If you are only here for one of us, you have missed the point.
- Be verifiable. A real profile with face photos, or a short video chat. We do not meet ghosts.
- Public first. A drink somewhere neutral with no expectations attached. If the chemistry is not there, we all shake hands and that is genuinely fine.
- Health is a conversation, not an accusation. We test regularly and we will talk about it openly. We expect the same from you.
- Discretion runs both ways. What we do is ours, what you do is yours, and neither is a story for anyone else.
- Any one of us can stop anything at any point without explaining. That is not fine print, it is the whole deal.
Coming as part of an MMF? Everybody needs to be comfortable with everybody. Sort that out between yourselves before you talk to us, not in the room.